What to wear on your first date with a Japanese woman

You’ve met through EM Club, had some introductions over email, had some e-chats, and liked each other.  Now the time has come to meet each other in person. The all important first date. If you’ve been following this blog we’ve covered where to go so you’re ready on that end.  But what should you wear? Well, not to worry friend, we’ve got you covered.

For a first date with a Japanese woman (or any woman for that matter) you want to put your best foot forward and make a good first impression.  A good rule of thumb for a first date is to dress appropriately for the place you are going. For instance, if you are going to take her to a formal restaurant for dinner don’t show up in a t-shirt, shorts and flip-flops.  Vice-versa, if you are going to do an outdoor activity date, like hiking, don’t show up in slacks and loafers! It’s important that whatever you wear it shows that you have put some thought into this first date. You don’t have to be fashion “perfect” but your fashion choices should show her that you cared enough to look good for the first date.

Good first date apparel should always be clothes you feel comfortable in, but should also show that you are well groomed, have good fashion common sense and project the image that you want her to see of you.  Remember, you never get a second chance to make a good impression, and let’s face it, the first visual she has of you in person will be the one that she will always remember.

Let’s discuss personal grooming.  If you are overdue for a haircut then go get yourself tightened up.   Also, take a shower, shave (or trim your beard) and make sure you are cleaned up and looking good.   As for personal fragrances, don’t over do it. If you are going to wear a cologne or aftershave, keep it subtle.   In other words, don’t bathe in it! A subtle clean fragrance goes a long way. But an overpowering amount of fragrance is not pleasant.  In Japan colognes and perfumes are more attractive if they are not overpowering.

In terms of clothing choices, remember they should reflect your personality so that you are comfortable, but they should be tasteful and fit  the atmosphere. For instance, if you are a board shorts and t-shirts kind of guy, don’t go over the top with an Italian suit and tie for a dinner date.  Perhaps a nice pair of dress jeans, a clean dress shirt and a casual sport coat with some casual dress loafers would look great on you. If you are really having a hard time with fashion, the casual “preppy” look is pretty much always acceptable and easy to pull off.  A nice pair of jeans or khakis with a polo shirt or button down shirt, paired with boat shoes, loafers or some plain white leather low top tennis shoes works fine.

If you feel your personality is more unique and a creative type than by all means dress appropriate to your personality, but keep in mind, be tasteful about it.  You are going for a positive first impression. This is a first date, by analogy, it’s sort of a like dressing for a job interview (only a lot more fun). So for instance, if you were going to interview for a job at an accounting firm you would wear a business suit.  If you were going to interview for a job at a creative agency you would not dress in a conservative business style.

It’s important to remember that regardless of what you wear, keep these simple rules in mind.  Be well groomed, clean and neat. Wear clothes that fit your personality but avoid overly trendy fashions.  Better to put forward a look that matches your personality but also shows some sensibility, maturity and self-confidence.  Japanese women admire men who have a sense of respect, responsibility, and a good sense of humor. Remember to just be yourself but dress in a way that puts your best foot forward.   

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