EM Club Success Stories Part 1

Albert, 80 years old, is a successful, retired gentleman who lives in Hawaii. Albert had a successful career in medicine and retired with both wealth and good health in the beautiful islands of Hawaii. Albert enjoys his retirement. He maintains an active lifestyle and takes advantage of all the natural beauty and healthy environment that living in the islands affords him. Despite living in an island paradise, Albert felt a longing for companionship. Albert wanted to meet someone to share the rest of his remaining years with.

When Albert decided he wanted to meet a partner to share his life with he knew he wanted to meet a woman from Japan. Albert had always had an interest in Japanese culture and found Japanese women to have the type of personality, education and attitude that he found very appealing. Aside from Hawaii being a beautiful place to retire, Albert also chose Hawaii because of the large influence of Japanese culture that has been assimilated into American life in Hawaii.

After finding out about EM Club, Albert was curious but he was hesitant to join. Albert had some doubts about his age. He thought to himself, “What if I’m too old? What if there is no match for me?” Albert decided he had nothing to lose. Albert signed up for EM Club in February 2018. In May, Albert was introduced to a Japanese woman through EM Club and they communicated for a while but she was not the one. Albert was not discouraged. He was serious about falling in love and getting a married.

Keiko is a successful business woman that lives in Tokyo. Keiko, 46 years old, had been longing to fall in love with an American who lives in Hawaii. Keiko, although living in a city of millions, was lonely. She wished she could meet a mature older man who would treat her with respect and kindness and that she could build a life with in Hawaii. She dreamed of meeting a man that she could help with his life and he could do the same for her.

Keiko decided to join EM Club. She became a member in June 2017. EM Club introduced her to six men and she communicated with each of them through emails but did not feel they were right for her. EM Club encouraged her to keep trying. She eventually met two men via emails through EM Club that she was interested in meeting in person. She arranged to fly to Hawaii in August 2018 to meet each of them for the first time. When Keiko arrived in Hawaii, EM Club also arranged for her to meet with Albert.

She met with the other two men the first day she arrived in Hawaii but she did not feel right about either of them. However, the day after her arrival, Keiko went on a date with Albert. What a difference a day makes! The chemistry was right and they hit if off as if they had known each other all their lives. After their first date Albert knew he had found the one. Albert called EM Club the next day and said: “Keiko is the best. I want to propose to her and ask her to marry me. Do you think she feels the same way about me? I don’t have much time and I want to live with her for the rest of my life.”

Keiko felt the same way about Albert! She thought that he was a very kind, mature man who treated her well. She felt very comfortable with him and could see them sharing their lives together.

Keiko returned to Japan and at the time of writing this blog, she and Albert communicate everyday using LINE, emails and Skype. Keiko is a little self-conscious about her English, but Albert accommodates her by using simple English phrases and is learning some Japanese. It has been only a month, but the two of them are off to a wonderful start building their relationship with an eye towards marriage.

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How to e-chat with your Japanese girlfriend

One of the common obstacles of long distance relationships is overcoming not being able to communicate regularly with each other because you are far apart. In the past this was a much more difficult problem to solve because mail was slow and phone calls were expensive.

Fast forward to where we are at today and thanks to the internet we can instantly communicate by email, text, Skype, Facetime and many other ways that would have seemed impossible back in the day.

One of the most common texting apps used in Japan is LINE.  In fact it is the most popular texting app in Japan.  It is easy to download and is free.  

It is important to know how to text with your Japanese girlfriend through LINE or any other texting app.  Here are a few tips to remember when communicating with your Japanese girlfriend.

Remember, English to her is a second language.  It is best to avoid using slang or abbreviations.   The best way to communicate with her via text messages is to use simple, straightforward sentences and grammar. Keep your grammar easy to understand - use simple present tense for things you’re doing every day, use future tense (will) for future events, simple past for things you finished.

Here’s an example of the wrong way of talking to Japanese people who speak little English.  She will not understand what this means:

“Hey Yumiko, what’s up? Anything new? I just wanted to holler at you and see what you’ve been up to.  I’ve been studying Japanese heavily and it’s crazy hard, but it’s coming along. When are you planning to come back?”

Now, an example of the right way - she will understand most if not all of this and is more likely to reply to you quickly because she doesn’t need to check a dictionary or grammar book to reply:

“Hi Yumiko! How are you?  What are you doing recently? I study Japanese everyday.  It is hard, but I like it! Will you come back to Hawaii soon?”

Simple straightforward communication works best. Enjoy communicating with your Japanese girlfriend over LINE or other texting apps. You can also take advantage of apps like Facetime or Skype so that you can actually see each other.  The same rules apply about using simple straightforward communication. Later as she gets more used to English you can introduce her to more slang or words you commonly use that she may not understand. Enjoy communicating !

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Celebrating the Harvest Moon

With the coming of autumn the days begin to shorten and the nights get longer. The sun sets sooner and a slight fall chill is in the air. The full moon or Harvest Moon that arrives with the beginning of the fall season is one of the major signposts that summer is ending and autumn has arrived.

In Japan, the arrival of the Harvest Moon is called tsukimi or otsukimi. In Japan, changes of seasons are often celebrated and the coming of the Harvest Moon is marked with seasonal offerings, food and drink and the practice of “viewing the moon”. The Japanese festivals honoring the autumn moon are also known as jugoya. The celebration of the full moon usually takes place on the 15th day of the eighth month of the traditional Japanese calendar. Modernly, this takes place in mid to late September.

Tsukimi traditions include displaying offerings of Japanese pampas grass susuki which can be placed in a vase or some type of arrangement and offered to the moon. There are other seasonal offerings that are laid out on a table or altar facing the moon that are symbolic of the autumn harvest. Items such as sweet potatoes are often offered to the full moon while beans or chestnuts are offered later the following month when the moon begins to wane. The offerings are to honor the moon and celebrate its coming and for a good harvest and good fortune.

The common food eaten during tsukimi are mochi rice dumplings called tsukimi dango which are eaten to celebrate the beauty of the moon. The round white dumplings are eaten and resemble the full moon in shape and color. There is also an ancient Japanese folk tale that the moon is inhabited by rabbits, and that these rabbits live on the moon and pound away at sweet rice to make mochi , hence the deep craters in the moon. Many dessert cakes can be found during this time with a rabbit decoration to celebrate the harvest moon.

There are other foods that people put out to eat during the tsukimi celebration but the mochi dumplings are most common. Many restaurants also get into the spirit during this time and present harvest moon items on their menu. Even McDonalds and other fast food outlets in Japan offer items during tsukimi. At McDonalds they offer a hamburger with a fried egg on top of the hamburger patty. The egg yolk symbolizes the full moon!

There are different venues that people can attend to view the moon together throughout Japan. In Kyoto many temples are available for viewing and in Tokyo there are also viewing parties at Tokyo Tower and elsewhere. More commonly, family and/or close friends get together at a friend or relative’s house with a east facing view to best view the full moon. There is food and drink and everyone sits together and enjoys viewing the beauty of the moon together. It is a beautiful reflective celebration. When one looks at the moon they acknowledge the passing of the seasons, the beauty of the moonlight, and they share together the sense of another year coming to a close and the fruits of the harvest that have arrived.

At some harvest moon parties it has become a popular to “catch the moon” in a glass and make a wish. It is a fun and entertaining game for the party goers and often is the cause of much merriment and laughter. How this is done is that a clear liquid is poured into a glass. Usually, the clear liquid is alcohol in the form of either sake, soju or plum wine. The object is to place your glass in such a way so that the reflection of the full moon is caught in your glass. When the moon is in your glass you have “caught the moon” and you can make your wish. Once you make your wish you swallow your drink to seal the deal. It is easier said than done to catch the moon in your glass! It is fun to watch each other wandering around to get the best angle to the moon to catch the full reflection in order to make a wish.

Most wishes are for good luck and prosperity in the coming season. But one of the most common wishes among single persons is to find true love. To find that special person to be their wife or husband. You too can celebrate tsukimi during the harvest full moon. Raise your glass, catch the moon, and make your wish for true love to come to you!

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Do Japanese women have racial preferences when dating?

Japan has a very small foreign population, in fact it is estimated that out of the entire Japanese population only about 2 percent are non-Japanese. However, Japanese people are very welcoming to foreigners and are more often than not very happy to meet people from outside of Japan.

The question of race in Japan in terms of dating preferences is usually one that most Japanese women never really think about.  In the majority of polls, most Japanese women stated that the most important criteria when dating a person depended on how they got along together, how he treated them, whether he is respectful and kind, and whether he was responsible.   

The more pressing concern amongst Japanese women who said they would not date a foreigner focused on not being able to communicate in English because they spoke only Japanese.  The other most common concern was that their partner would not understand Japanese culture and traditions.

It is interesting to note that Japanese view anyone who is not Japanese as a foreigner.   In fact the term “gaijin” means “outsider or foreigner” basically a non-Japanese person. This term applies to anyone who is not Japanese,  it is not based on skin color, religion or creed but literally means anyone who is not Japanese. Therefore whether you are black, white, Chinese, Korean, Filipino, Latino, or anything else other than Japanese, you are all equally “gaijin”. Gaijin is not a negative or derogatory word it is merely stating that the person is a non-Japanese.

The majority of Japanese women do not have a preferred racial preference when considering a suitable partner.    Most Japanese women consider of far more importance how the person treats them, whether he is an interesting person, a kind person, a good person and whether he responsible, someone they can depend on.  

Japanese women find a man’s character and personality to be the most attractive feature.   It is more important that there be a compatibility for a strong personal relationship between the two of you.  Do you share common interests? Can you laugh together and cry together? Can she depend on you? Can you depend on her? There should be an emphasis on respect for one another and the ability to understand each other.  This is what is meant by being able to “get along together” which was one of the most common factors cited by Japanese women when deciding on a husband.

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How EM club works

You may be wondering what makes EM club different from other dating websites. You obviously are interested in meeting a Japanese partner otherwise you would not be reading this blog. So why EM club rather than another online dating service?

For starters let’s start with what EM Club does that is uniquely different than the more well known dating websites like Harmony or Match. The biggest difference from those websites is that EM Club specializes exclusively in matching men who live in Hawaii with women in Japan who want to meet and marry a man who lives in Hawaii. That is all we do and we have been doing it successfully for more than 16 years.

EM Club does not have offices in any state other than Hawaii. The only other EM Club office is in Japan. This is to ensure that we can serve our clients in Hawaii and Japan exclusively. That means we provide focused personal attention on our clients to assure the best match for the client living in Hawaii and the client living in Japan. Our goal is to bring quality men from Hawaii and quality women from Japan together in loving, lasting, meaningful relationships that may lead to marriage.

You may be wondering how EM Club successfully matches men and women. Unlike other online dating websites, EM Club does not use a computer generated algorithm to determine adequate matches. EM Club matches individuals based on 16 years of professional matchmaking experience. Every professional matchmaker at EM Club is highly skilled and experienced in matching men and women who may be compatible matches.

  Upon signing up with EM Club, you will fill out an application which will ask for personal information about yourself. You will meet personally with an EM Club counselor in the Hawaii office. The one on one meeting with a professional counselor is a huge difference from other dating services. The meeting serves the purpose of finding out more about you and what you desire in a Japanese partner and for the matchmakers to make a professional assessment of which Japanese women would be potential successful matches for you. With more than 16 years of matchmaking experience, the EM Club matchmakers are excellent at determining which matches have the best possibility of success.

Another difference from other online dating services is that the Japanese women who have decided to join EM Club are highly educated, successful women who have careers themselves. Our Japanese clients have already decided what they want: they want to meet and fall in love with a compatible man who lives in Hawaii. They want to get married and share their lives with you in Hawaii. The Japanese women on EM Club are looking for love in all the right places and want to meet the right person.The right place is Hawaii, and the right person may be you!

It is very simple to begin with EM Club if you desire to meet a Japanese partner to share your life in Hawaii. There is no fee to join EM Club. You need only call the number on our website and make an appointment to meet with an EM Club counselor at the EM Club office. You will fill out an application and have a chance to answer all the questions and concerns you may have in person and get real time answers from a real human being.

After the initial meeting your counselor will begin looking for compatible matches for you and will send your information to those persons to facilitate an introduction. You do not need to initiate any contact. If one of the Japanese women members reviews your profile and wants to meet you she will make contact with you. If the two of you hit it off, great! If for whatever reason you (or her) do not feel you are a good match, no worries, you will continue to have your profile circulated to other potential matches.

After 16 successful years of matching couples from Hawaii and Japan, you deserve to give yourself the opportunity to find the love that you desire with EM Club.

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Religious Differences in Marriage

For persons who are deeply religious it may be difficult to enter an intimate relationship with someone who does not share the same beliefs.  Do you want your wife to practice the same religion as you? Are you open to respecting the beliefs of your wife if they are not the same as your own?  These are important questions to ask of yourself and your prospective bride to be if you want religion to be a central factor in your lives together.

In Japan, the majority of Japanese are Buddhist or Shinto or some combination of the two.  Even those who claim no religion at all are still influenced by Buddhist or Shinto traditions and philosophies to some extent because both of these spiritual traditions had a huge historical role in the development of Japanese culture.  There are Japanese who practice Christianity as well other religions. Japan like the United States is a secular nation and does not mandate one particular religion.

In the United States, the majority of Americans are Christian, however all faiths have existed in the United States since its very beginning as a nation.  As such, interfaith marriage is not uncommon in the United States. I have known many happily married interfaith couples.  A wonderful couple I know often invite me over for Passover seder as well as Christmas dinner. His wife is Christian and he is Jewish.  They both love and respect each other completely for who they are, including the religious beliefs they both brought to the relationship.

However, there are some persons who may want their spouse to follow their same beliefs or they cannot marry.  This view should also be respected if that is what that person wants in marriage. If this is how you feel then you must talk about this with your prospective wife and see if she is willing to accept this condition before getting married.

It is recommended that you discuss this topic early in the dating process if this is something that you expect in your marriage.   It may very well be that the Japanese woman you are interested in may be open to finding out more about your religion. As stated earlier, in Japan the majority of Japanese are raised with Buddhist beliefs and concepts so introducing her to some of your beliefs and perhaps having her attend a church service with you may be something she may want to do together to see if it is something she may be interested in finding out more about.

If she does not want to do this than you should respect her decision, or if she decides she does not want to convert to your religion than you should respect that as well.    Whether this is a complete deal breaker for you is something only you can answer.

In my own marriage I was raised Catholic and my wife was raised Buddhist,  in fact, my mother-in-law’s grandfather was an ordained Buddhist monk. I respect and accept my wife’s traditions and she respects mine.  We observe each ohters traditions and holidays but we still keep our respective religious identities and it works out beautifully. I enjoy Obon and she enjoys Christmas!

International marriage is not for everyone.  But the fact that you are considering an international marriage means that you are interested in learning and being part of a culture that is different than your own.  A big advantage of living in Hawaii, unlike other parts of the United States, is that there are many places to practice Buddhism as well as Christian and other faiths. An international marriage is a beautiful way for each of you to be a part of all aspects of each other’s culture--including one another’s spiritual traditions-- if the two of you choose to do so.   

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