Consider this scenario for a moment. She is a Japanese woman who has always wanted
to live in Hawaii happily married to an American. You are an American who lives in Hawaii and
wants to share the rest of your life with a Japanese woman. You both join EM Club.
One day you receive an introduction from her
through EM Club. You both begin emailing
each other and you like each other. You
both begin to communicate daily and soon are arranging to meet. She comes to visit you at your home in
Hawaii and the two of you are a perfect fit for one another! You may have also gone to Japan to meet her
family and friends as well. You both are very much in love and decide to marry and live happily together in Hawaii for the rest of your lives.
The above description pretty much sums up the
experience of many happy couples who found their better half through EM
Club. EM Club is unique in that it
focuses on the islands of Hawaii and Japanese women who want to meet an
American living in Hawaii for a serious relationship leading to marriage and
spend the rest of their lives living together in Hawaii.
However, there is a saying that goes “life is what
happens while making plans.” What if at
some point in your marriage you need to leave Hawaii and move to the
mainland? The decision to move could be
forced by either a change of employment or a need to care for an elderly parent
that lives on the mainland.
Moving to a different state can be challenging for
any married couple. It can be
particularly difficult when the couple had their dream to live together forever
in Hawaii cut short by circumstances out of their control.
So how do you handle such a decision? She surely never expected to live anywhere
else other than Hawaii with you. But on
the other hand, you probably did not expect to live anywhere else either.
The most important thing is to communicate with
each other about the possibility of having to move to the mainland. If the circumstances forcing the move are
financial, employment related or for the care of an elderly parent--by all
means explain to her your feelings about why you need to move to the
mainland. Hear her out in her responses
and listen to her feelings on the subject.
In the majority of cases, after
discussing the situation with each other you may be surprised that some other
options may arise that you alone may not have thought of that may actually
solve the problem of moving. The saying
two heads are better than one is accurate most of the time.
However, if there really is no other
option than to move you may find that your spouse will support you in this
decision and will help you to make this transition –together—as a husband and
wife. Japanese women are very dedicated
to the success of their husband and family.
If they see this as the best thing for your family than most of the time
they will be supportive. Surprisingly,
you may both find the move to be an exciting change new chapter in your lives
as a family.
Being supportive of one another is an
important element in marriage. I have
many friends that have had to make similar moves because of their parents
becoming ill and they needed to move closer to them to care for them. None of them were initially thrilled with
having to move, but they both acted together to support each other. Eventually, many of them moved back to Hawaii
when the situation became stable, and some others fell in love unexpectedly
with their life on the mainland.
Want to marry a Japanese woman?
Talk with our professional matchmaker.
Try EM CLUB Today!
EM CLUB 2222 Kalakaua Ave Suite 700A Honolulu, HI 96815
Phone: (808) 926-0101
Email: info@emclub.jp
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